Forgiveness

when people usually talk about forgiveness, I usually neither agree nor disagree about anything. I think its "ones to ones own" when it comes to the choices we make even if its about forgiving someone about something.

what does it take to forgive someone?

According to Sidney and Suzanne Simon 'Forgiveness is freeing up and putting to better use the energy once consumed by holding grudges, harboring resentments, and nursing unhealed wounds. It is rediscovering the strengths we always had and relocating our limitless capacity to understand and accept other people and ourselves.'

I strongly believe that non-forgiveness is keeping the negetive energy by rotating it around your life and those who matter to you, while limiting the life experiences as you are never open to newer challanges.

In some Oprah episode I heard her say "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different." Isn't that a great definition? It just means that when you know better, you do better. If you had known better at that time you would have done better.

and I say everything that happens is "makhtub" (meaning destiny from the alchemist by paolo cohelo)

and then Realization hit about how I have been carrying dead weight when I heard someone say : hating someone is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die!
and that exactly what i have been doing for the last 5 years ... unconciously of course. the more I think about it it is that very incident that is hampering my moving forward and I dont think I can move forward until I learn to forgive and bury the hatchet.

all I did was take a deep breath and loudly say I FORGIVE YOU: I forgive you for leaving me, I forgive you for not understanding me, I forgive you for not coming back for me, I forgive you for not realizing my worth and I forgive you for everything.
You did those things because I never let you see my worth, maybe I never made you feel needed or maybe I just expressed the wrong message and now its time for me to move on and lead my life.

the past could not have been any better as it was not, but i can certainly hope that the future is going to be ten fold better since i kow better as i have learnt from the past.

I hope with this new lease of life I will take on newer challanges in anticipation of better energy comming my way.